The secret to giving and getting a powerful orgasm is, in a phrase, take it slow.
There is no need to be in a hurry because taking time allows the body to build up energy that can then be released in a burst of energy, similar to a sneeze.
Many research studies have shown that a woman’s sexual pleasure is increased when the physical sexual act is accompanied by loving, caring relationship.
With men the psychological dimensions are also important but the physical aspects of touch are more significant.
Here are five general suggestions for what you can do to have mutually satisfying – and – huge orgasms.
Focus on foreplay: For many men, a satisfying orgasm starts with ample foreplay. Take the time to engage in kissing, touching, and other types of stimulation before moving on to intercourse.
Communicate: Open and honest communication is key when it comes to sexual pleasure. Encourage your partner to share what feels good and what doesn’t, and be receptive to their feedback.
Experiment: Try new things and explore different techniques together to find what works best for both of you. This could involve changing positions, trying different types of stimulation, or incorporating sex toys into your play.
Use lubrication: If your partner experiences discomfort or pain during sex, using a water-based lubricant can help increase pleasure and reduce friction.
Encourage relaxation: Stress and anxiety can make it difficult for some men to achieve orgasm. Encourage your partner to relax and focus on the sensations they’re experiencing, rather than any performance pressure or distractions.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to listen to your partner and prioritize their pleasure and comfort. By working together and being open to trying new things, you can help your partner have a more satisfying orgasm.
If you are interested in the science you can read these journal articles:
Physical pleasure, feel-good hormones, increased closeness – there are so many reasons people crave a healthy sex life. While busy lives can get in the way of regular intimacy, most Canadians are able to find the time and energy to do it on a regular basis. But what if a couple is facing other barriers in the bedroom?
Yes, we’re talking about erectile dysfunction. If you’re a Canadian man over 50, there’s a 50% chance you will deal with this at some level in your lifetime. While there are definitely medical ways to alleviate these challenges, it’s a good idea to consider a partner’s needs and feelings.
There are many ways you can manage intimacy without an erection while working towards a treatment plan. Good old fashioned communication and a basic understanding of the research around sexuality can help ensure a partner’s needs are met even when things aren’t working 100%. Here are the two main things your partner could be missing if you have erectile dysfunction, and how you can help fulfill their needs.
Common Problem #1: A partner is missing the emotional closeness of sex.
Most people know that sex releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin, but they may not know just how vital those can be to building a bond between two people. Oxytocin has serious bonding power, so it’s no surprise that couples with higher levels of the hormone tend to have longer, happier relationships.
Besides missing out on the hormones, partners can feel emotional distance when a partner with ED refuses to communicate about the issue. If you allow a once healthy sex life to fizzle with no explanation, you could be causing unnecessary stress and damage to your relationship. There’s absolutely no reason to be ashamed of a treatable medical condition shared by a large percentage of the population.
Here’s the good news: A long hug can release the exact same hormones as sex, especially if skin-to-skin contact is on the menu. Combine the cuddling with an honest conversation and some ED treatment, and you could be on your way to a healthier relationship.
Common Problem #2: A partner is missing the pleasure of sex.
There’s obviously more than one way to give a partner pleasure in the bedroom, but it isn’t always easy to adjust to a sex life without intercourse.
It may be worthwhile to see a sex therapist to open a dialog about what alternatives make the most sense in your relationship. What feels the best for your partner? Is it important to them that you also enjoy yourself? What are their needs, exactly? Solutions can range from adult toys to tips on manual stimulation, but it all starts with a conversation.
The best thing for you and your partner is information
If your partner is distressed at your erectile dysfunction, it usually means that they value your intimate relationship. They may also be concerned that they are to blame for your lack of interest in the bedroom. This can come out in negative ways, such as withdrawing, frustration, anger or self-blame.
Many men want their partners to be supportive when they are dealing with ED, but let’s be honest – it’s easier to be supportive when you know what exactly you’re supporting.
You should talk to a specialist as soon as you start experiencing symptoms of ED. This will frame the issue medically, helping to remove stigma or shame and move towards real solutions. Show that you care about the intimacy you share with your partner, but don’t apologize for your medical condition – recognize it, address it, and treat it.
If you live in the Toronto or Vancouver area, our doctors at FullMast Men’s Health Clinic are here to help. For your free, confidential consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today.
A study published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology in 2018 found that women who had active sex lives were less likely to develop heart disease than those who were less sexually active. Additionally, a study published in the American Journal of Cardiology in 2015 showed that women who had regular sex were less likely to develop hypertension and metabolic syndrome. Another study published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology in 2012 found that sexual activity was associated with higher levels of estrogen, which can improve bone health and reduce the risk of osteoporosis.
And a recent large scale study of people over 40 years of age conducted in Japan showed that all-cause mortality and cancer mortality were significantly elevated among men who lacked sexual interest.
When we visit the doctor, we often hear a lot more about the drawbacks than the health benefits of sex.
Danish doctor and professor of sexology, Christian Graugaard, says that patients and doctors alike have it all wrong. He makes the case for the health benefits of sex and sexual health, advocating for doctors to spend more time considering the sex lives of their patients. For many adults, especially those in their later years, sexual well-being is important every aspect of an individual’s health.
Loving sex is good for the head and the heart
There are several reasons that partnered sex for older couples are beneficial for heart health.
First, sexual activity is a form of exercise. During sexual intercourse as well as foreplay, both men and women experience stretching of muscles and tendons, flexion of joints, and hormone fluctuation which promotes cardiovascular fitness.
Second, the intimacy built into a sexual relationship is a source of emotional and social support, which is a key component that defines life context and in turn shapes health.
Third, partnered sexuality and satisfaction with it reduces exposure to stress, modify response to stress, and promote recovery from stress, thereby reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease.
Dr. Graugaard quotes the World Health Organization (WHO) in his definition of sexual health. They say that sexual health as “a state of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being related to sexuality.” This definition suggests that sexuality “is closely linked to personal integrity, identity, body image, bonding, and social curiosity.”
Yes – that’s a lot of key factors in a person’s well being. Sexual health affects us mentally, emotionally, culturally, and (of course) physically. With so many important components, it is no wonder Dr. Graugaard is urging doctors to speak with their patients about this issue!
Why is sexual health so critical for maturing adults?
Sexual health is important for adults, but those dealing with other health issues should be particularly aware of this issue. According to Dr. Graugaard, a healthy sex life is proven to aid in the treatment and morale of chronically or critically ill patients.
There are a few reasons for this. Firstly, sexual encounters can be a “refuge” from the stress of illness. Close physical relationships can also add meaningfulness to the life of patients who are otherwise suffering.
His statements are backed by recent studies: In Italy, it was discovered that men with type 2 diabetes who had frequent sexual problems suffered more illness-related distress that their sexually healthy counterparts. According to Dr. Graugaard, “a fulfilling sexual life might reduce morbidity and perhaps even mortality of patients. Sadly, nearly two-thirds of the aforementioned diabetes patients reported that sexuality had not been addressed by any doctor within the past year.”
Is the quality of sex important for health?
Yes, particularly for women.
Clinical studies show that multiple domains of relationship quality have stronger effects on women’s health—including immune system and cardiovascular function—than on men’s and that sexual quality is more important for women’s happiness and life satisfaction than for men’s.
Sexual health is no small matter
At FullMast, we wholeheartedly agree that sexual health is no small matter.
In Dr. Graugaard’s article, he cites a population study from Holland which showed that 90% of 16 to 95 year olds considered their sex life important, very important, or extremely important. Undoubtedly, men and women in Canada have similar feelings about intimacy in their own lives. But what can they do if physiological barriers stand in the way?
For men facing issues related to erectile dysfunction who want to enjoy the many health benefits of sex, we are here to help. If you would like a free consultation with an accredited doctor specializing in erectile dysfunction in Vancouver or Toronto, call 1-844-500-1177 or book your confidential appointment online today.
Lower blood pressure, decreased stress, and a boosted immune system – it’s hard to beat the health benefits of sex. Like most things that are good for your health, science says that intimacy in the morning can help you start the day off right. Just like a healthy breakfast or a refreshing morning jog, the health benefits of morning sex mean this might be worth adding to your morning routine.
Some men find it easier to perform in the morning hours
For most men, testosterone levels peak in the mornings. The pituitary gland, which controls the production of the male sex hormone in the brain, gets switched on while men sleep. This newly produced testosterone can put men “in the mood” from the minute they wake up. The refreshing feeling of a good night’s sleep and possible “morning wood” doesn’t hurt, either! Men who struggle in the bedroom during the evening may find they have better luck at this time of day.
Women also produce a bit of testosterone overnight, though not nearly as much. While they are statistically less likely to be interested in sex in the morning, women who choose to do so can experience multiple benefits throughout the day. Why? Just read on.
Morning sex can release feel-good hormones to kick off your day.
The endorphins released by intimate activity can help lessen physical pain, improve mood, and release stress. As if these benefits of morning sex weren’t enough, women also get an extra kick of estrogen when they are gettin’ busy on the regular. This can improve the look and feel of skin while protecting from things like heart disease and osteoporosis. Better mood, better skin, better heart health – not a bad way to start your day!
It will keep you feeling connected with your partner
The chemicals released during sex can also help couples feel closer to one another, thanks to a little thing called oxytocin. Oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone,” can help strengthen the bond between two people. In fact, a recent study showed that heterosexual men in monogamous relationships were more likely to keep their distance from women who weren’t their partners after receiving a dose of the hormone.
Solidifying a relationship’s bond before leaving for the day’s activities is a great idea for couples looking to strengthen their relationship. For those who cannot have sex in the morning, touching or cuddling can also help achieve this closeness.
What to do if morning sex just isn’t working
It’s great to recognize the benefits of morning sex, but it’s not so simple for many Canadian couples. Erectile dysfunction affects close to half the men over 50 across the country. This leave many struggling with intimacy in their relationships.
FullMast men’s health clinics were created to provide real options to men dealing with ED. From innovative treatments like SONICWAVE™ to carefully created multimodal plans, we are committed to helping men improve their sexual health.
If you would like a free consultation with an accredited doctor specializing in erectile dysfunction in Vancouver or Toronto, call 1-844-500-1177 or book your confidential appointment online today.
When it comes to intimate relationships, confidence has always been a bit of an enigma. Just how important is high self-esteem in relationships? Does confidence come from a healthy sex life, or is it a necessary ingredient to get things moving in the first place? Is confidence sexy, or are sexy people confident?
While questions may linger, one thing is certain: Confidence is a worthwhile goal for those looking to improve their relationships. Let’s take a look at what experts say about how self-image affects relationships, and what you can do to improve your confidence between the sheets.
Yes, confidence is a big deal in the bedroom.
Actually, it’s a big deal in all aspects of a healthy relationship. Studies show that women with low self-image are 19% less satisfied in their marriages. Additionally, people with high self-esteem are more likely to take emotional risks which are necessary for the health of a partnership.
In the Hite Report, a landmark study of sexuality, one woman shared that “What started me off into having [orgasms] was a great deal more confidence in myself which has been a steadily growing feature of the last several years, talking plainly about sex and the sex we were having with my husband and experimenting with different things to do in bed.” Other Hite Report participants agreed that increased confidence and communication helped to increase their sexual satisfaction.
But the question still stands – how do you get that much-needed confidence in the first place? Here are a few tips from experts in the field.
Get your head in the game.
If body image concerns are creeping into your head during intimate moments, it might be worthwhile to flip the switch. Sex therapist Annie Gunn told Business Insider that focusing on the sensations in your body and the bond with your partner may help to dispel self-doubt during an encounter. In the same article, sexologist Kristie Overstreet adds that self-conscious lovers should “Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and not taken too seriously.”
Get healthy.
We’ve already written about the bevy of research about how exercise can improve your sex life. Besides helping with sexual performance and erectile dysfunction, regular workouts can also have a great effect on body image. The endorphins released from exercise don’t hurt, either!
Give it time.
Many women in the Hite report alluded to the sexual confidence that comes with age. According to an article published by Harvard Health, it takes many women until their 30s to gain confidence in the bedroom. When she reaches age 40 and older, orgasms can become more intense and body-comfort increases. Men can also shed preconceived notions about body image, erectile performance, and other issues as they age, allowing for a healthier sex life. As we’ve said before on this blog, the concept of hitting leaving a “sexual peak” behind as we age is far from the reality for many Canadians!
Confidence is for everyone.
Confidence is not something you are born with. It is built through time, a healthy lifestyle, and a good mindset. With the right steps and attitude, sexual confidence is attainable for anyone at any age.
That said, if more serious issues are plaguing your sex life, calling for reinforcements may be your best option. Our clinics help Toronto and Vancouver men access medically sound, non-intrusive treatments for their erectile dysfunction. If ED is affecting your confidence and performance in the bedroom, call us at 1-877-500-1177 or schedule your free initial consultation online today.
Learning how to sexually please a partner can be difficult for anyone, and continuing to please them throughout a relationship can be even more challenging.
What happens when your physical relationship starts to dwindle? What if you are no longer able to perform in those tried-and-true ways? And how do you learn about the desires of a new partner, especially if it has been awhile since you last dated?
We’ve found understanding what women want can be a particular challenge for their male partners. Many people are looking tips on how to turn a woman on, especially as relationships and bodies change. Research from psychologist Roy Baumeister suggests that women “have a much more variable sex drive, far more responsive to surrounding circumstances.” For men, whose sex drives are more biologically-controlled, this can add up to a whole lot of confusion.
Here are some of the things women most crave in the bedroom – and how you can give them what they want at any point in the relationship.
Paying positive compliments to a woman throughout the day, especially about her appearance, can help her get in the mood when it comes time to get busy. Believe it or not, helping with chores and opening up about your feelings can also help build intimacy and trust. It may not sound sexy, but it can make a big difference in the bedroom.
Women want patience
Most women take longer than men to achieve orgasm, so your patience will definitely be required from time to time.
If you seem exhausted or frustrated about the amount of time it is taking, you may make it difficult for her to fully enjoy the experience. Take care to make sure she gets what she desires, and be willing to commit to her needs…even if they take longer than you would like.
Women want communication
I know, this is a BIG topic, but stick with me. Although communication is key at every stage in the relationship, there are two instances in the bedroom where it is really important:
Women orgasm less frequently than men during sex, so it is important to discuss expectations surrounding this subject. A woman who is not reaching orgasm every time may still be enjoying the experience. Alternatively, a woman who can’t seem to reach orgasm could give you a few tips to get her there more frequently.
Because female sexuality tends to be more contextual, storylines can play a larger role in personal turn-ons. Ask your partner to share romance novels, erotic stories, or fantasies they enjoy.
In short, if you want to know how to turn a woman on, an intimate conversation might be the secret.
The most important thing to communicate about in a relationship
Throughout the years, a woman’s body can change dramatically. Childbirth, menopause, weight gain/loss, and other life events can make a big difference in female sexuality.
And guess what? Men’s bodies can change too.Some of those changes are the natural result of aging, but others – like erectile dysfunction – can and should be looked into by a doctor.
Erectile dysfunction affects around half of Canadian men over 50, many of whom struggle to address the issue with their partners. If this is something you are struggling with, we can offer support through our personalized treatment programs. For a free consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today…
It’s something many women do, but few will admit to their partners. It’s the punchline of jokes, the source of tension in some relationships, and the unspoken reality in bedrooms across the country.
Yes, women fake orgasms. They fake orgasms a lot. Although studies on the subject are limited, recent research suggests that up to 80% of women are faking it at least half the time they have sex. The same study showed that 1 in 4 women fake it every time they have sex.
It’s easy to assume that “faking it” is negative and dishonest, but the reality is a far less black and white. Relationship experts note that some types of “fake pleasure” can actually be positive in a relationship, while others are completely destructive.
Here’s a breakdown of some common reasons women fake orgasms, how to spot them in your relationship, and what to do about it.
Scenario #1: She’s putting on a show because it turns you on.
What it looks like: If she’s rocking the bed with loud screams and over-the-top shakes, it’s possible that your partner is exaggerating her pleasure to get you excited. She may well be enjoying herself, but studies show that women tend to make more aggressive noises when their partners are close to climaxing, while their own orgasms have less of a soundtrack.
What to do about it: This is the “good” kind of fake orgasm, provided the woman is not denying herself enjoyment or taking it too far. For the most part, it simply means she cares about getting you off. Sure, she might be using sound effects to get you there more quickly, but this is common and harmless behaviour. If your concerns linger, touching base about her needs and wants might be a good idea.
Scenario #2: She is faking orgasms to appease your unreasonable expectations and to protect your ego.
What it looks like: To identify this, it’s better to look in the mirror rather than at your partner’s behaviour. Do you insist on making her orgasm every time you have sex, despite how long it takes (and whether she desired an orgasm to start with)? Do you feel a strong sense of accomplishment and security from pleasuring your partner? Could she feel pressured to give you that affirmation? If so, chances are she might be occasionally faking it to spare your feelings.
What to do about it: This type of fake orgasm emerges out of the myth that the female orgasm is the same as the male orgasm, and that in order to be satisfied a woman needs to climax. This is often not the case with women, which can be hard for men to grasp. Faking it is an understandable response–it is a lot easier than debating the complexities of female pleasure mid-encounter. On the other hand, allowing unrealistic expectations and myths to control your sex life is not a good move. To have a conversation about this, try asking your partner to explain her orgasm expectations and be willing to listen to her experience. You may be surprised by what you learn!
Scenario #3: She is trying to make it stop, because she doesn’t want to be doing it in the first place.
What it looks like: This could look similar to scenario #1, but there are some key differences that make this cross the line into dangerous territory. For example, she may show visible signs of discomfort, such as wincing or avoiding kissing, throughout the encounter. She also may evade eye contact and be physically still while you are having sex. She may seem aloof, then start making “pleasure” noises while in a position where you aren’t looking at each other. Experts agree that this type of orgasm faking is the most dangerous.
What to do about it: Abort mission! There’s a difference between a woman who wants to have sex despite not being initially “into it” (maybe she wants the intimacy, or wants to fulfill your needs) and a woman who feels pressured, uncomfortable, and doesn’t want to be there at all. Before the encounter, make sure you have consent. If you notice discomfort during sex, even if it conflicts with other signs of pleasure, ask again. Most importantly, be genuinely open to stopping if she is not comfortable continuing.
What should you do if you are having trouble in your sex life?
Almost everyone struggles at one point or another with understanding their partners’ needs and behaviours in the bedroom. It is clear from our look at the female orgasm that couples withoutsexual dysfunction have trouble communicating about pleasure. Dealing with health issues can add a whole new level of complexity for any couple.
At FullMast, we know you care about the pleasure of your partner, and that you want a full and happy sex life. That’s why we offer compassionate, comprehensive, and confidential support for men dealing with erectile dysfunction. For more information, please call 1-844-500-1177 or book an appointment today.
A proper night’s sleep is good for you. A healthy sex life is good for you. Basically, spending the right amount of time in bed, with quality sleep, can lead to a happier, more productive life.
But do these two activities have any relationship with each other?
Sleep Promotes Erectile Health.
Love making and nap taking have a mutually beneficial relationship which can help almost anyone improve things in the bedroom. Here are a few things you should know about sleep and sex.
1) Getting more sleep increases the likelihood of sex the next day.
A 2015 study from the University of Michigan tracked the sleep and sexual patterns of 171 young women over a two week period. Researchers found that every extra hour of sleep increases the likelihood of sex the next day by 14%.
The study’s author, David Kalmbach, told CBS News that “practicing good sleep hygiene…could help protect against having problems in the bedroom.” He added that “helping out around the house to reduce workload” and “planning romantic getaways” are great ways for partners to encourage this improvement.
2) Women who sleep more report higher sexual satisfaction.
Quantity is one thing, but what about the quality of intimacy? A study of women aged 50-74 found that those who slept 5 hours or less per day not only had less sex, but also reported lower satisfaction in the bedroom. The more sleep these women got, the happier they were with their sex lives.
Research shows some major benefits to trading the sleepy, half-hearted rendezvous for an energetic encounter. But what if sleep is something you have less control over?
3) The quality of your sleep has a big impact on your sex life.
While advice pertaining to sleep and sex can be helpful for most, it’s important to call a doctor if you find these things to be of your control.
The Science of Penis Health & Sleep
A large study conducted in 2022 looked at the association between male genitourinary conditions (like erectile dysfunction and testosterone deficiency) and sleep disorders (like insomnia, sleep apnea, and circadian rhythm sleep disorder). They used a large claims database to compare the two, and found that poor sleep has a negative impact on penis health. This was the largest study of its kind in the U.S. to date.
What This Means For You
This information is great to have, and we hope it can help you improve your sex life. However, we know it’s not fair to tell someone with a sleep disorder to simply “get more sleep.” Similarly, it’s unreasonable to tell someone with ED to “just get more turned on.”
These are medical issues that deserve professional attention.
We can help with that, too. If you are a man experiencing erectile dysfunction, we are here to help. Get your free, confidential consultation by booking online or calling 1-844-500-1177 today.
It’s easy to see how hot tubs earned their reputation for getting people in the mood. The calming lights, the warm water, and the sensation of the jets can make this a pretty romantic spot. Of course, the lack of clothes doesn’t hurt either.
An underwater encounter might seem like a good idea, but there are a few things you should know before going too far. While a dip in the hot tub can be a great place to start heating things up, it’s usually worthwhile to move inside when things get really steamy.
What are the health risks of having sex in a hot tub?
The water itself isn’t the issue here – it’s other things in the water which could cause a problem. Chemicals like chlorine which are present in the hot tub (or any other pool, for that matter) can affect the pH of the vagina. During sex, chemical-filled water can get inside of a woman, leading to a UTI or yeast infection.
Underwater sex can also wash away a woman’s natural lubrication, which can make sex much less enjoyable. Some people will even emerge from this less-than-satisfying situation with an uncomfortable rash (if this has already happened to you, don’t fret – these usually go away in a few days).
Another thing to consider is STIs. Condom companies don’t test their products under water, and your protection is more likely to weaken, break, or slide off in this new environment. This, combined with the aforementioned lack of lubrication, makes contracting an STI (or unplanned pregnancy) a real possibility during hot tub sex.
How far is it safe to go in a hot tub?
Here’s the good news: All the risks above only apply to penetration. That means touching, kissing, and other foreplay activities are safe for couples in a hot tub.
So go ahead, have some fun! Just remember that when it comes to comfort and safety, saving sex for dry land might be the best bet.
Could my ED be caused by spending too much time in the hot tub?
As a Men’s Health Clinic, many of the questions we hear about hot tubs have to do with their effects on male performance. Our answer to these questions almost always depends on the person asking, and ruling out more serious health issues is important to understand exactly what is going on with an individual’s body.
Generally, you’re safe to use a hot tub in moderation. But if you’re noticing a trend with hot tub use and erectile dysfunction, it’s worthwhile to talk to a specialist about what is going on.
If you are near our Toronto or Vancouver clinics, we would be happy to personally answer any questions you have during a free and confidential consultation. Give us a call at 1-844-500-1177 or book your consultation today, and our experienced doctors will give you a personalized, thorough understanding of exactly what is happening with your body.
Note: in the context of this article “specialist” does not refer to a medical specialist such as an urologist.
Communication, as we’ve discussed before, can be a challenge in any romantic relationship. Addressing physical needs and limitations can be tough, and both men and women often feel uncomfortable revealing what is going on with their ever-changing bodies.
An open conversation is almost always worth the time and discomfort, but it can be hard for women and their partners to know where to start.
What are the most common sexual health issues for women? Why do they happen? And how can they be addressed?
This list of common sexual health issues for women can help guide your conversation and find real solutions for common problems.
1) Pain during sex
According to the 2009 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 30% of women between 18 and 54 reported pain during their last sexual encounter, making this one of the most common sexual health issues for women.
Comparatively, only 5% of men reported any pain during sex…so it’s no surprise many women have trouble explaining this issue to male partners!
Let’s break this statistic down a little bit to get a better idea of what is happening.
About 10% of women suffer from chronic genital pain, which can spawn from many different medical issues such as vulvodynia. If a woman feels pain every time she has sex, a visit to a doctor is a good idea.
A lack of lubrication can make things uncomfortable and can become a bigger problem for women as they age. Try increasing foreplay and using a water-based lube during sex to ease this issue.
If the pain is new, consider any recent changes (such as childbirth or menopause) or potential STIs which could affect the reproductive organs.
2) Changes in the body
Even if a woman is not experiencing pain, changes in the body from childbirth, menopause, major illness or a major shift in weight can majorly affect things in the bedroom.
The reasons for this are both physiological and psychological. Giving birth, for example, can loosen the vaginal muscles and affect a woman’s pleasure in bed. It can also cause postpartum depression, fatigue, or a loss of confidence due to physical changes.
Being sensitive to how the woman is feeling, showing interest in her pleasure, and even involving a sex therapist can help couples jump over these hurdles in life.
3) Lack of desire
There is a difference between a shortage of desire for sex and a total disinterest in sex. Many people struggle with their libidos but still want the closeness and pleasure that a physical encounter can bring.
While women experiencing menopause often report a change in libido, the truth is that both women and men at any age can be affected by a change in their sexual desire. A relationship with someone who has a higher sex drive can make these issues even more prominent, and more important to talk about.
How do you talk about it? An environment without immediate pressures is vital; having a conversation about a lack of desire right after an advance is turned down is not a great idea. Often, desire can be improved with changes in relationship behaviour – more romance, for example, or less stress. A sex therapist can help lead the conversation and offer suggestions, or a doctor can get involved if menopause or hormones are the culprit.
Be open to improving your sex life
Whatever sexual health issues women (and men!) face in the bedroom, the most important solution is to look for solutions. Sex is a big part of your life and well-being. There are many people out there ready to help with any issue you might be facing.
For our part, we help men in Toronto, Vancouver, and surrounding area keep their sex lives at “full mast” with innovative treatments and a comprehensive approach to erectile dysfunction. If ED is affecting your love life, book your FREE, confidential consultation online today or call 1-844-500-1177.
