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  • Intimacy Without An Erection? What You Need To Know

    Intimacy Without An Erection? What You Need To Know

    Intimacy Without An Erection

    Physical pleasure, feel-good hormones, increased closeness – there are so many reasons people crave a healthy sex life. While busy lives can get in the way of regular intimacy, most Canadians are able to find the time and energy to do it on a regular basis. But what if a couple is facing other barriers in the bedroom?

    Yes, we’re talking about erectile dysfunction. If you’re a Canadian man over 50, there’s a 50% chance you will deal with this at some level in your lifetime. While there are definitely medical ways to alleviate these challenges, it’s a good idea to consider a partner’s needs and feelings.

    There are many ways you can manage intimacy without an erection while working towards a treatment plan. Good old fashioned communication and a basic understanding of the research around sexuality can help ensure a partner’s needs are met even when things aren’t working 100%. Here are the two main things your partner could be missing if you have erectile dysfunction, and how you can help fulfill their needs.

    Common Problem #1: A partner is missing the emotional closeness of sex.

    Most people know that sex releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin, but they may not know just how vital those can be to building a bond between two people. Oxytocin has serious bonding power, so it’s no surprise that couples with higher levels of the hormone tend to have longer, happier relationships.

    Besides missing out on the hormones, partners can feel emotional distance when a partner with ED refuses to communicate about the issue. If you allow a once healthy sex life to fizzle with no explanation, you could be causing unnecessary stress and damage to your relationship. There’s absolutely no reason to be ashamed of a treatable medical condition shared by a large percentage of the population.

    Here’s the good news: A long hug can release the exact same hormones as sex, especially if skin-to-skin contact is on the menu. Combine the cuddling with an honest conversation and some ED treatment, and you could be on your way to a healthier relationship.

    Common Problem #2: A partner is missing the pleasure of sex.

    There’s obviously more than one way to give a partner pleasure in the bedroom, but it isn’t always easy to adjust to a sex life without intercourse.

    It may be worthwhile to see a sex therapist to open a dialog about what alternatives make the most sense in your relationship. What feels the best for your partner? Is it important to them that you also enjoy yourself? What are their needs, exactly? Solutions can range from adult toys to tips on manual stimulation, but it all starts with a conversation.

    The best thing for you and your partner is information

    If your partner is distressed at your erectile dysfunction, it usually means that they value your intimate relationship. They may also be concerned that they are to blame for your lack of interest in the bedroom. This can come out in negative ways, such as withdrawing, frustration, anger or self-blame.

    Many men want their partners to be supportive when they are dealing with ED, but let’s be honest – it’s easier to be supportive when you know what exactly you’re supporting.

    You should talk to a specialist as soon as you start experiencing symptoms of ED. This will frame the issue medically, helping to remove stigma or shame and move towards real solutions. Show that you care about the intimacy you share with your partner, but don’t apologize for your medical condition – recognize it, address it, and treat it.

    If you live in the Toronto or Vancouver area, our doctors at FullMast Men’s Health Clinic are here to help. For your free, confidential consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today.

  • “More Sex!” It’s What Doctors Should Prescribe

    “More Sex!” It’s What Doctors Should Prescribe

    More Sex

    Science Shows that Sex is Healthy for Him AND Her

    A study published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology in 2018 found that women who had active sex lives were less likely to develop heart disease than those who were less sexually active. Additionally, a study published in the American Journal of Cardiology in 2015 showed that women who had regular sex were less likely to develop hypertension and metabolic syndrome. Another study published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology in 2012 found that sexual activity was associated with higher levels of estrogen, which can improve bone health and reduce the risk of osteoporosis.

    And a recent large scale study of people over 40 years of age conducted in Japan showed that all-cause mortality and cancer mortality were significantly elevated among men who lacked sexual interest.

    When we visit the doctor, we often hear a lot more about the drawbacks than the health benefits of sex.

    Danish doctor and professor of sexology, Christian Graugaard, says that patients and doctors alike have it all wrong. He makes the case for the health benefits of sex and sexual health, advocating for doctors to spend more time considering the sex lives of their patients. For many adults, especially those in their later years, sexual well-being is important every aspect of an individual’s health.

    Loving sex is good for the head and the heart

    There are several reasons that partnered sex for older couples are beneficial for heart health.

    First, sexual activity is a form of exercise. During sexual intercourse as well as foreplay, both men and women experience stretching of muscles and tendons, flexion of joints, and hormone fluctuation which promotes cardiovascular fitness.

    Second, the intimacy built into a sexual relationship is a source of emotional and social support, which is a key component that defines life context and in turn shapes health.

    Third, partnered sexuality and satisfaction with it reduces exposure to stress, modify response to stress, and promote recovery from stress, thereby reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease.

    Dr. Graugaard quotes the World Health Organization (WHO) in his definition of sexual health. They say that sexual health as “a state of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being related to sexuality.” This definition suggests that sexuality “is closely linked to personal integrity, identity, body image, bonding, and social curiosity.”

    In January 2023 the results of a large scale study were published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine that showed that men with ED who used PDE-5i pills had fewer heart problems and live longer than non-users. And, the study found, the more of these pills men take the longer they live. The reason is likely that users benefit from regular sex in a positive feedback loop.

    Yes – that’s a lot of key factors in a person’s well being. Sexual health affects us mentally, emotionally, culturally, and (of course) physically. With so many important components, it is no wonder Dr. Graugaard is urging doctors to speak with their patients about this issue!

    Why is sexual health so critical for maturing adults?

    Sexual health is important for adults, but those dealing with other health issues should be particularly aware of this issue. According to Dr. Graugaard, a healthy sex life is proven to aid in the treatment and morale of chronically or critically ill patients.

    There are a few reasons for this. Firstly, sexual encounters can be a “refuge” from the stress of illness. Close physical relationships can also add meaningfulness to the life of patients who are otherwise suffering.

    His statements are backed by recent studies: In Italy, it was discovered that men with type 2 diabetes who had frequent sexual problems suffered more illness-related distress that their sexually healthy counterparts. According to Dr. Graugaard, “a fulfilling sexual life might reduce morbidity and perhaps even mortality of patients. Sadly, nearly two-thirds of the aforementioned diabetes patients reported that sexuality had not been addressed by any doctor within the past year.”

    Is the quality of sex important for health?

    Yes, particularly for women.

    Clinical studies show that multiple domains of relationship quality have stronger effects on women’s health—including immune system and cardiovascular function—than on men’s and that sexual quality is more important for women’s happiness and life satisfaction than for men’s.

    Sexual health is no small matter

    At FullMast, we wholeheartedly agree that sexual health is no small matter.

    In Dr. Graugaard’s article, he cites a population study from Holland which showed that 90% of 16 to 95 year olds considered their sex life important, very important, or extremely important. Undoubtedly, men and women in Canada have similar feelings about intimacy in their own lives. But what can they do if physiological barriers stand in the way?

    For men facing issues related to erectile dysfunction who want to enjoy the many health benefits of sex, we are here to help. If you would like a free consultation with an accredited doctor specializing in erectile dysfunction in Vancouver or Toronto, call 1-844-500-1177 or book your confidential appointment online today.

  • Satisfying sex. Which comes first confidence or performance?

    Satisfying sex. Which comes first confidence or performance?

    Satisfying sex

    When it comes to intimate relationships, confidence has always been a bit of an enigma. Just how important is high self-esteem in relationships? Does confidence come from a healthy sex life, or is it a necessary ingredient to get things moving in the first place? Is confidence sexy, or are sexy people confident?

    While questions may linger, one thing is certain: Confidence is a worthwhile goal for those looking to improve their relationships. Let’s take a look at what experts say about how self-image affects relationships, and what you can do to improve your confidence between the sheets.

    Yes, confidence is a big deal in the bedroom.

    Actually, it’s a big deal in all aspects of a healthy relationship. Studies show that women with low self-image are 19% less satisfied in their marriages. Additionally, people with high self-esteem are more likely to take emotional risks which are necessary for the health of a partnership.

    In the Hite Report, a landmark study of sexuality, one woman shared that  “What started me off into having [orgasms] was a great deal more confidence in myself which has been a steadily growing feature of the last several years, talking plainly about sex and the sex we were having with my husband and experimenting with different things to do in bed.” Other Hite Report participants agreed that increased confidence and communication helped to increase their sexual satisfaction.

    But the question still stands – how do you get that much-needed confidence in the first place? Here are a few tips from experts in the field.

    Get your head in the game.

    If body image concerns are creeping into your head during intimate moments, it might be worthwhile to flip the switch. Sex therapist Annie Gunn told Business Insider that focusing on the sensations in your body and the bond with your partner may help to dispel self-doubt during an encounter. In the same article, sexologist Kristie Overstreet adds that self-conscious lovers should “Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and not taken too seriously.”

    Get healthy.

    We’ve already written about the bevy of research about how exercise can improve your sex life. Besides helping with sexual performance and erectile dysfunction, regular workouts can also have a great effect on body image. The endorphins released from exercise don’t hurt, either!

    Give it time.

    Many women in the Hite report alluded to the sexual confidence that comes with age. According to an article published by Harvard Health, it takes many women until their 30s to gain confidence in the bedroom. When she reaches age 40 and older, orgasms can become more intense and body-comfort increases. Men can also shed preconceived notions about body image, erectile performance, and other issues as they age, allowing for a healthier sex life. As we’ve said before on this blog, the concept of hitting leaving a “sexual peak” behind as we age is far from the reality for many Canadians!

    Confidence is for everyone.

    Confidence is not something you are born with. It is built through time, a healthy lifestyle, and a good mindset. With the right steps and attitude, sexual confidence is attainable for anyone at any age.

    That said, if more serious issues are plaguing your sex life, calling for reinforcements may be your best option. Our clinics help Toronto and Vancouver men access medically sound, non-intrusive treatments for their erectile dysfunction. If ED is affecting your confidence and performance in the bedroom, call us at 1-877-500-1177 or schedule your free initial consultation online today.

  • How To Turn Her On – The Secrets You Need To Know

    How To Turn Her On – The Secrets You Need To Know

    How To Turn Her On

    Learning how to sexually please a partner can be difficult for anyone, and continuing to please them throughout a relationship can be even more challenging.

    What happens when your physical relationship starts to dwindle? What if you are no longer able to perform in those tried-and-true ways? And how do you learn about the desires of a new partner, especially if it has been awhile since you last dated? 

    We’ve found understanding what women want can be a particular challenge for their male partners. Many people are looking tips on how to turn a woman on, especially as relationships and bodies change. Research from psychologist Roy Baumeister suggests that women “have a much more variable sex drive, far more responsive to surrounding circumstances.” For men, whose sex drives are more biologically-controlled, this can add up to a whole lot of confusion.

    Here are some of the things women most crave in the bedroom – and how you can give them what they want at any point in the relationship.

    Women want emotional closeness

    Pioneering research on male and female sexuality suggests that context matters a lot to women, and that emotional closeness is an important part of how to turn a woman on.

    Paying positive compliments to a woman throughout the day, especially about her appearance, can help her get in the mood when it comes time to get busy. Believe it or not, helping with chores and opening up about your feelings can also help build intimacy and trust. It may not sound sexy, but it can make a big difference in the bedroom.

    Women want patience

    Most women take longer than men to achieve orgasm, so your patience will definitely be required from time to time.

    If you seem exhausted or frustrated about the amount of time it is taking, you may make it difficult for her to fully enjoy the experience. Take care to make sure she gets what she desires, and be willing to commit to her needs…even if they take longer than you would like.

    Women want communication

    I know, this is a BIG topic, but stick with me. Although communication is key at every stage in the relationship, there are two instances in the bedroom where it is really important:

    • Women orgasm less frequently than men during sex, so it is important to discuss expectations surrounding this subject. A woman who is not reaching orgasm every time may still be enjoying the experience. Alternatively, a woman who can’t seem to reach orgasm could give you a few tips to get her there more frequently.
    • Because female sexuality tends to be more contextual, storylines can play a larger role in personal turn-ons. Ask your partner to share romance novels, erotic stories, or fantasies they enjoy.

    In short, if you want to know how to turn a woman on, an intimate conversation might be the secret.

    The most important thing to communicate about in a relationship

    Throughout the years, a woman’s body can change dramatically. Childbirth, menopause, weight gain/loss, and other life events can make a big difference in female sexuality.

    And guess what? Men’s bodies can change too. Some of those changes are the natural result of aging, but others – like erectile dysfunction – can and should be looked into by a doctor.

    Erectile dysfunction affects around half of Canadian men over 50, many of whom struggle to address the issue with their partners. If this is something you are struggling with, we can offer support through our personalized treatment programs. For a free consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today.

  • The Truth About Women “Faking It” In The Bedroom

    The Truth About Women “Faking It” In The Bedroom

    Women Faking It In The Bedroom

    It’s something many women do, but few will admit to their partners. It’s the punchline of jokes, the source of tension in some relationships, and the unspoken reality in bedrooms across the country.

    Yes, women fake orgasms. They fake orgasms a lot. Although studies on the subject are limited, recent research suggests that up to 80% of women are faking it at least half the time they have sex. The same study showed that 1 in 4 women fake it every time they have sex.

    It’s easy to assume that “faking it” is negative and dishonest, but the reality is a far less black and white. Relationship experts note that some types of “fake pleasure” can actually be positive in a relationship, while others are completely destructive.

    Here’s a breakdown of some common reasons women fake orgasms, how to spot them in your relationship, and what to do about it.

    Scenario #1: She’s putting on a show because it turns you on.

    What it looks like: If she’s rocking the bed with loud screams and over-the-top shakes, it’s possible that your partner is exaggerating her pleasure to get you excited. She may well be enjoying herself, but studies show that women tend to make more aggressive noises when their partners are close to climaxing, while their own orgasms have less of a soundtrack.

    What to do about it: This is the “good” kind of fake orgasm, provided the woman is not denying herself enjoyment or taking it too far. For the most part, it simply means she cares about getting you off. Sure, she might be using sound effects to get you there more quickly, but this is common and harmless behaviour. If your concerns linger, touching base about her needs and wants might be a good idea.

    Scenario #2: She is faking orgasms to appease your unreasonable expectations and to protect your ego.

    What it looks like: To identify this, it’s better to look in the mirror rather than at your partner’s behaviour. Do you insist on making her orgasm every time you have sex, despite how long it takes (and whether she desired an orgasm to start with)? Do you feel a strong sense of accomplishment and security from pleasuring your partner? Could she feel pressured to give you that affirmation? If so, chances are she might be occasionally faking it to spare your feelings.

    What to do about it: This type of fake orgasm emerges out of the myth that the female orgasm is the same as the male orgasm, and that in order to be satisfied a woman needs to climax. This is often not the case with women, which can be hard for men to grasp. Faking it is an understandable response–it is a lot easier than debating the complexities of female pleasure mid-encounter. On the other hand, allowing unrealistic expectations and myths to control your sex life is not a good move. To have a conversation about this, try asking your partner to explain her orgasm expectations and be willing to listen to her experience. You may be surprised by what you learn!

    Scenario #3: She is trying to make it stop, because she doesn’t want to be doing it in the first place.

    What it looks like: This could look similar to scenario #1, but there are some key differences that make this cross the line into dangerous territory. For example, she may show visible signs of discomfort, such as wincing or avoiding kissing, throughout the encounter. She also may evade eye contact and be physically still while you are having sex. She may seem aloof, then start making “pleasure” noises while in a position where you aren’t looking at each other. Experts agree that this type of orgasm faking is the most dangerous.

    What to do about it: Abort mission! There’s a difference between a woman who wants to have sex despite not being initially “into it” (maybe she wants the intimacy, or wants to fulfill your needs) and a woman who feels pressured, uncomfortable, and doesn’t want to be there at all. Before the encounter, make sure you have consent. If you notice discomfort during sex, even if it conflicts with other signs of pleasure, ask again. Most importantly, be genuinely open to stopping if she is not comfortable continuing.

    What should you do if you are having trouble in your sex life?

    Almost everyone struggles at one point or another with understanding their partners’ needs and behaviours in the bedroom. It is clear from our look at the female orgasm that couples without sexual dysfunction have trouble communicating about pleasure. Dealing with health issues can add a whole new level of complexity for any couple.

    At FullMast, we know you care about the pleasure of your partner, and that you want a full and happy sex life. That’s why we offer compassionate, comprehensive, and confidential support for men dealing with erectile dysfunction. For more information, please call 1-844-500-1177 or book an appointment today.

  • Want More Action in the Bedroom? First Sleep Better

    Want More Action in the Bedroom? First Sleep Better

    More Action in the Bedroom

    A proper night’s sleep is good for you. A healthy sex life is good for you. Basically, spending the right amount of time in bed, with quality sleep, can lead to a happier, more productive life.

    But do these two activities have any relationship with each other?

    Sleep Promotes Erectile Health.

    Love making and nap taking have a mutually beneficial relationship which can help almost anyone improve things in the bedroom. Here are a few things you should know about sleep and sex.

    1) Getting more sleep increases the likelihood of sex the next day.

    A 2015 study from the University of Michigan tracked the sleep and sexual patterns of 171 young women over a two week period. Researchers found that every extra hour of sleep increases the likelihood of sex the next day by 14%.

    The study’s author, David Kalmbach, told CBS News that “practicing good sleep hygiene…could help protect against having problems in the bedroom.” He added that “helping out around the house to reduce workload” and “planning romantic getaways” are great ways for partners to encourage this improvement.

    2) Women who sleep more report higher sexual satisfaction.

    Quantity is one thing, but what about the quality of intimacy? A study of women aged 50-74 found that those who slept 5 hours or less per day not only had less sex, but also reported lower satisfaction in the bedroom. The more sleep these women got, the happier they were with their sex lives.

    Research shows some major benefits to trading the sleepy, half-hearted rendezvous for an energetic encounter. But what if sleep is something you have less control over?

    3) The quality of your sleep has a big impact on your sex life.

    A study conducted in 2005 study found a high correlation between sleep apnea and erectile dysfunction in men. Like ED, sleep apnea can have many different psychological and physiological causes. The condition may also cause cardiovascular complications. This can affect blood flow everywhere, especially below the belt.

    While advice pertaining to sleep and sex can be helpful for most, it’s important to call a doctor if you find these things to be of your control.

    The Science of Penis Health & Sleep

    A large study conducted in 2022 looked at the association between male genitourinary conditions (like erectile dysfunction and testosterone deficiency) and sleep disorders (like insomnia, sleep apnea, and circadian rhythm sleep disorder). They used a large claims database to compare the two, and found that poor sleep has a negative impact on penis health. This was the largest study of its kind in the U.S. to date.

    What This Means For You

    This information is great to have, and we hope it can help you improve your sex life. However, we know it’s not fair to tell someone with a sleep disorder to simply “get more sleep.” Similarly, it’s unreasonable to tell someone with ED to “just get more turned on.”

    These are medical issues that deserve professional attention.

    We can help with that, too. If you are a man experiencing erectile dysfunction, we are here to help. Get your free, confidential consultation by booking online or calling 1-844-500-1177 today.

  • How to Turn an Awkward Conversation into a Productive Communication With Your Partner

    How to Turn an Awkward Conversation into a Productive Communication With Your Partner

    Communication With Your Partner

    We’ve all had awkward conversations: bad job interviews, parental inquisitions, weird small talk with a friend-of-a-friend (what was his name again?).

    If you’re anything like me, avoiding these interactions is usually your first instinct.

    Unfortunately, you can’t run from all awkward moments and difficult discussions. While some might be worth avoiding (sorry, friend-of-a-friend), pushing through the discomfort is necessary to improve and maintain your intimate relationships.

    Uncomfortable Conversations Between Couples and Tips for Dealing

    Here are some of the most uncomfortable conversations couples need to have, and some tips for dealing with them.

    1) I’m not happy with the amount of sex we are having.

    Many couples avoid any conversation about sex that may be construed as negative or shaming. After all, it’s pretty awkward to bring up. But quiet tensions and bedtime frustrations are no fun for anyone, and eventually you will have to address the elephant in the room.

    If you are the partner who wants more action, kindly ask your significant other what they need to make that happen. Everyone has needs and wants in a relationship. It might be a challenge at first, but sharing your physical desires and committing to giving more in return can improve things dramatically.

    If you want less, ask yourself why. Is this a new development, or have you always had a low libido? Are there changes you or your partner could make to improve the situation? Clarity and compromise are key to making this conversation about sex work.

    2) My body is changing.

    Talking about a lack of sex is difficult, but addressing physical barriers to sex can feel almost impossible. How do you even start to improve something you don’t quite understand yourself?

    Changes in hormones, energy, and sexual performance might be hard to talk about, but they aren’t uncommon. A compassionate conversation on next steps is the most productive in this case. Suggest a doctor or specialist get involved, and avoid feelings of shame and frustration by holding off on big discussions until you have the facts in front of you.

    3) I’m bored.

    You know your sex life needs some spicing up, but how do you bring it up to your partner?

    First, figure out if the boredom is limited to the bedroom. There are many reasons your relationship could feel a bit stale, and working on personal and relationship issues can create a better environment for fun and experimentation.

    Next, identify some new things you want to try in the bedroom and suggest your partner do the same. Try to come up with more than one option, so your partner doesn’t feel pressured to do something which makes them uncomfortable. A conversation about sex that focuses on boredom may be awkward, but shifting focus to new things you would like to try can be intimate and encouraging.

    Should I talk to a doctor about my sex life?

    We know firsthand that medical knowledge can make a real difference for couples. Talking to a doctor about intimate issues can lead to a better understanding of your health of as a whole. But where do you find a doctor who can really help when it comes to sexual health, a doctor who won’t just throw a pill at the problem?

    That’s where clinics like FullMast come in. By identifying hidden causes and effective treatments, FullMast helps men to find real solutions for their erectile dysfunction. That means a better sex life, renewed confidence, and a conversation about sex that involves excitement and solutions.

    We encourage you to seek out clinics that can help you address the specific issues you are facing as a couple. If you are dealing with erectile dysfunction, let us know! Book a free consultation at our Toronto or Vancouver clinics online today or call 1-844-500-1177.