The secret to giving and getting a powerful orgasm is, in a phrase, take it slow.
There is no need to be in a hurry because taking time allows the body to build up energy that can then be released in a burst of energy, similar to a sneeze.
Many research studies have shown that a woman’s sexual pleasure is increased when the physical sexual act is accompanied by loving, caring relationship.
With men the psychological dimensions are also important but the physical aspects of touch are more significant.
Here are five general suggestions for what you can do to have mutually satisfying – and – huge orgasms.
Focus on foreplay: For many men, a satisfying orgasm starts with ample foreplay. Take the time to engage in kissing, touching, and other types of stimulation before moving on to intercourse.
Communicate: Open and honest communication is key when it comes to sexual pleasure. Encourage your partner to share what feels good and what doesn’t, and be receptive to their feedback.
Experiment: Try new things and explore different techniques together to find what works best for both of you. This could involve changing positions, trying different types of stimulation, or incorporating sex toys into your play.
Use lubrication: If your partner experiences discomfort or pain during sex, using a water-based lubricant can help increase pleasure and reduce friction.
Encourage relaxation: Stress and anxiety can make it difficult for some men to achieve orgasm. Encourage your partner to relax and focus on the sensations they’re experiencing, rather than any performance pressure or distractions.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to listen to your partner and prioritize their pleasure and comfort. By working together and being open to trying new things, you can help your partner have a more satisfying orgasm.
If you are interested in the science you can read these journal articles:
Physical pleasure, feel-good hormones, increased closeness – there are so many reasons people crave a healthy sex life. While busy lives can get in the way of regular intimacy, most Canadians are able to find the time and energy to do it on a regular basis. But what if a couple is facing other barriers in the bedroom?
Yes, we’re talking about erectile dysfunction. If you’re a Canadian man over 50, there’s a 50% chance you will deal with this at some level in your lifetime. While there are definitely medical ways to alleviate these challenges, it’s a good idea to consider a partner’s needs and feelings.
There are many ways you can manage intimacy without an erection while working towards a treatment plan. Good old fashioned communication and a basic understanding of the research around sexuality can help ensure a partner’s needs are met even when things aren’t working 100%. Here are the two main things your partner could be missing if you have erectile dysfunction, and how you can help fulfill their needs.
Common Problem #1: A partner is missing the emotional closeness of sex.
Most people know that sex releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin, but they may not know just how vital those can be to building a bond between two people. Oxytocin has serious bonding power, so it’s no surprise that couples with higher levels of the hormone tend to have longer, happier relationships.
Besides missing out on the hormones, partners can feel emotional distance when a partner with ED refuses to communicate about the issue. If you allow a once healthy sex life to fizzle with no explanation, you could be causing unnecessary stress and damage to your relationship. There’s absolutely no reason to be ashamed of a treatable medical condition shared by a large percentage of the population.
Here’s the good news: A long hug can release the exact same hormones as sex, especially if skin-to-skin contact is on the menu. Combine the cuddling with an honest conversation and some ED treatment, and you could be on your way to a healthier relationship.
Common Problem #2: A partner is missing the pleasure of sex.
There’s obviously more than one way to give a partner pleasure in the bedroom, but it isn’t always easy to adjust to a sex life without intercourse.
It may be worthwhile to see a sex therapist to open a dialog about what alternatives make the most sense in your relationship. What feels the best for your partner? Is it important to them that you also enjoy yourself? What are their needs, exactly? Solutions can range from adult toys to tips on manual stimulation, but it all starts with a conversation.
The best thing for you and your partner is information
If your partner is distressed at your erectile dysfunction, it usually means that they value your intimate relationship. They may also be concerned that they are to blame for your lack of interest in the bedroom. This can come out in negative ways, such as withdrawing, frustration, anger or self-blame.
Many men want their partners to be supportive when they are dealing with ED, but let’s be honest – it’s easier to be supportive when you know what exactly you’re supporting.
You should talk to a specialist as soon as you start experiencing symptoms of ED. This will frame the issue medically, helping to remove stigma or shame and move towards real solutions. Show that you care about the intimacy you share with your partner, but don’t apologize for your medical condition – recognize it, address it, and treat it.
If you live in the Toronto or Vancouver area, our doctors at FullMast Men’s Health Clinic are here to help. For your free, confidential consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today.
A study published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology in 2018 found that women who had active sex lives were less likely to develop heart disease than those who were less sexually active. Additionally, a study published in the American Journal of Cardiology in 2015 showed that women who had regular sex were less likely to develop hypertension and metabolic syndrome. Another study published in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology in 2012 found that sexual activity was associated with higher levels of estrogen, which can improve bone health and reduce the risk of osteoporosis.
And a recent large scale study of people over 40 years of age conducted in Japan showed that all-cause mortality and cancer mortality were significantly elevated among men who lacked sexual interest.
When we visit the doctor, we often hear a lot more about the drawbacks than the health benefits of sex.
Danish doctor and professor of sexology, Christian Graugaard, says that patients and doctors alike have it all wrong. He makes the case for the health benefits of sex and sexual health, advocating for doctors to spend more time considering the sex lives of their patients. For many adults, especially those in their later years, sexual well-being is important every aspect of an individual’s health.
Loving sex is good for the head and the heart
There are several reasons that partnered sex for older couples are beneficial for heart health.
First, sexual activity is a form of exercise. During sexual intercourse as well as foreplay, both men and women experience stretching of muscles and tendons, flexion of joints, and hormone fluctuation which promotes cardiovascular fitness.
Second, the intimacy built into a sexual relationship is a source of emotional and social support, which is a key component that defines life context and in turn shapes health.
Third, partnered sexuality and satisfaction with it reduces exposure to stress, modify response to stress, and promote recovery from stress, thereby reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease.
Dr. Graugaard quotes the World Health Organization (WHO) in his definition of sexual health. They say that sexual health as “a state of physical, emotional, mental, and social well-being related to sexuality.” This definition suggests that sexuality “is closely linked to personal integrity, identity, body image, bonding, and social curiosity.”
Yes – that’s a lot of key factors in a person’s well being. Sexual health affects us mentally, emotionally, culturally, and (of course) physically. With so many important components, it is no wonder Dr. Graugaard is urging doctors to speak with their patients about this issue!
Why is sexual health so critical for maturing adults?
Sexual health is important for adults, but those dealing with other health issues should be particularly aware of this issue. According to Dr. Graugaard, a healthy sex life is proven to aid in the treatment and morale of chronically or critically ill patients.
There are a few reasons for this. Firstly, sexual encounters can be a “refuge” from the stress of illness. Close physical relationships can also add meaningfulness to the life of patients who are otherwise suffering.
His statements are backed by recent studies: In Italy, it was discovered that men with type 2 diabetes who had frequent sexual problems suffered more illness-related distress that their sexually healthy counterparts. According to Dr. Graugaard, “a fulfilling sexual life might reduce morbidity and perhaps even mortality of patients. Sadly, nearly two-thirds of the aforementioned diabetes patients reported that sexuality had not been addressed by any doctor within the past year.”
Is the quality of sex important for health?
Yes, particularly for women.
Clinical studies show that multiple domains of relationship quality have stronger effects on women’s health—including immune system and cardiovascular function—than on men’s and that sexual quality is more important for women’s happiness and life satisfaction than for men’s.
Sexual health is no small matter
At FullMast, we wholeheartedly agree that sexual health is no small matter.
In Dr. Graugaard’s article, he cites a population study from Holland which showed that 90% of 16 to 95 year olds considered their sex life important, very important, or extremely important. Undoubtedly, men and women in Canada have similar feelings about intimacy in their own lives. But what can they do if physiological barriers stand in the way?
For men facing issues related to erectile dysfunction who want to enjoy the many health benefits of sex, we are here to help. If you would like a free consultation with an accredited doctor specializing in erectile dysfunction in Vancouver or Toronto, call 1-844-500-1177 or book your confidential appointment online today.
Lower blood pressure, decreased stress, and a boosted immune system – it’s hard to beat the health benefits of sex. Like most things that are good for your health, science says that intimacy in the morning can help you start the day off right. Just like a healthy breakfast or a refreshing morning jog, the health benefits of morning sex mean this might be worth adding to your morning routine.
Some men find it easier to perform in the morning hours
For most men, testosterone levels peak in the mornings. The pituitary gland, which controls the production of the male sex hormone in the brain, gets switched on while men sleep. This newly produced testosterone can put men “in the mood” from the minute they wake up. The refreshing feeling of a good night’s sleep and possible “morning wood” doesn’t hurt, either! Men who struggle in the bedroom during the evening may find they have better luck at this time of day.
Women also produce a bit of testosterone overnight, though not nearly as much. While they are statistically less likely to be interested in sex in the morning, women who choose to do so can experience multiple benefits throughout the day. Why? Just read on.
Morning sex can release feel-good hormones to kick off your day.
The endorphins released by intimate activity can help lessen physical pain, improve mood, and release stress. As if these benefits of morning sex weren’t enough, women also get an extra kick of estrogen when they are gettin’ busy on the regular. This can improve the look and feel of skin while protecting from things like heart disease and osteoporosis. Better mood, better skin, better heart health – not a bad way to start your day!
It will keep you feeling connected with your partner
The chemicals released during sex can also help couples feel closer to one another, thanks to a little thing called oxytocin. Oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone,” can help strengthen the bond between two people. In fact, a recent study showed that heterosexual men in monogamous relationships were more likely to keep their distance from women who weren’t their partners after receiving a dose of the hormone.
Solidifying a relationship’s bond before leaving for the day’s activities is a great idea for couples looking to strengthen their relationship. For those who cannot have sex in the morning, touching or cuddling can also help achieve this closeness.
What to do if morning sex just isn’t working
It’s great to recognize the benefits of morning sex, but it’s not so simple for many Canadian couples. Erectile dysfunction affects close to half the men over 50 across the country. This leave many struggling with intimacy in their relationships.
FullMast men’s health clinics were created to provide real options to men dealing with ED. From innovative treatments like SONICWAVE™ to carefully created multimodal plans, we are committed to helping men improve their sexual health.
If you would like a free consultation with an accredited doctor specializing in erectile dysfunction in Vancouver or Toronto, call 1-844-500-1177 or book your confidential appointment online today.
On the newest show featuring Dr. Mayer reminds men it is possible to maintain strong erections in their 70s. There are many factors effecting performance including lifestyle, medical conditions and also employing therapies that treat the cause not just symptoms.
For next FAWP featuring Dr. Mayer tune in on Saturday, October 13 at 8am on AM740, 96.7 FM Toronto, and Rogers 949.
About “From A Woman’s Perspective”
“From A Woman’s Perspective” is the weekly radio program featuring Marilyn Wetston (host and producer) and her special guests (Sponsor-Experts). It airs every Saturday morning at 8 on AM740, 96.7 FM Toronto, and Rogers 949.
Each week Marilyn explores fascinating topics relevant to ‘Zoomer’ women and men.
While Marilyn is known as “The Wardrobe Doctor” and owns the landmark Toronto store Marilyn’s in Toronto’s Fashion District, the show is not just about fashion.
On the newest show Dr. Mayer reminds men that erectile dysfunction can be treated even if there are other health issues such as diabetes, heart conditions or gout.
For next FAWP featuring Dr. Mayer tune in on Saturday, September 8 at 8am on AM740, 96.7 FM Toronto, and Rogers 949.
About “From A Woman’s Perspective”
“From A Woman’s Perspective” is the weekly radio program featuring Marilyn Wetston (host and producer) and her special guests (Sponsor-Experts). It airs every Saturday morning at 8 on AM740, 96.7 FM Toronto, and Rogers 949.
Each week Marilyn explores fascinating topics relevant to ‘Zoomer’ women and men.
While Marilyn is known as “The Wardrobe Doctor” and owns the landmark Toronto store Marilyn’s in Toronto’s Fashion District, the show is not just about fashion.
When it comes to intimate relationships, confidence has always been a bit of an enigma. Just how important is high self-esteem in relationships? Does confidence come from a healthy sex life, or is it a necessary ingredient to get things moving in the first place? Is confidence sexy, or are sexy people confident?
While questions may linger, one thing is certain: Confidence is a worthwhile goal for those looking to improve their relationships. Let’s take a look at what experts say about how self-image affects relationships, and what you can do to improve your confidence between the sheets.
Yes, confidence is a big deal in the bedroom.
Actually, it’s a big deal in all aspects of a healthy relationship. Studies show that women with low self-image are 19% less satisfied in their marriages. Additionally, people with high self-esteem are more likely to take emotional risks which are necessary for the health of a partnership.
In the Hite Report, a landmark study of sexuality, one woman shared that “What started me off into having [orgasms] was a great deal more confidence in myself which has been a steadily growing feature of the last several years, talking plainly about sex and the sex we were having with my husband and experimenting with different things to do in bed.” Other Hite Report participants agreed that increased confidence and communication helped to increase their sexual satisfaction.
But the question still stands – how do you get that much-needed confidence in the first place? Here are a few tips from experts in the field.
Get your head in the game.
If body image concerns are creeping into your head during intimate moments, it might be worthwhile to flip the switch. Sex therapist Annie Gunn told Business Insider that focusing on the sensations in your body and the bond with your partner may help to dispel self-doubt during an encounter. In the same article, sexologist Kristie Overstreet adds that self-conscious lovers should “Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and not taken too seriously.”
Get healthy.
We’ve already written about the bevy of research about how exercise can improve your sex life. Besides helping with sexual performance and erectile dysfunction, regular workouts can also have a great effect on body image. The endorphins released from exercise don’t hurt, either!
Give it time.
Many women in the Hite report alluded to the sexual confidence that comes with age. According to an article published by Harvard Health, it takes many women until their 30s to gain confidence in the bedroom. When she reaches age 40 and older, orgasms can become more intense and body-comfort increases. Men can also shed preconceived notions about body image, erectile performance, and other issues as they age, allowing for a healthier sex life. As we’ve said before on this blog, the concept of hitting leaving a “sexual peak” behind as we age is far from the reality for many Canadians!
Confidence is for everyone.
Confidence is not something you are born with. It is built through time, a healthy lifestyle, and a good mindset. With the right steps and attitude, sexual confidence is attainable for anyone at any age.
That said, if more serious issues are plaguing your sex life, calling for reinforcements may be your best option. Our clinics help Toronto and Vancouver men access medically sound, non-intrusive treatments for their erectile dysfunction. If ED is affecting your confidence and performance in the bedroom, call us at 1-877-500-1177 or schedule your free initial consultation online today.
At FullMast Men’s Health Clinic, we know erectile dysfunction is a big deal.
It’s a big deal in our communities, where half of all men over the age of fifty face erectile concerns. It’s a major issue in the bedrooms of our patients, in budding romances, and in otherwise happy marriages. It can signal life-threatening medical conditions or long-term sexual health issues.
Despite the seriousness and widespread nature of this concern, many men are unaware of the medically sound, long-term solutions available for erectile dysfunction. They believe that injections, pills, and implants are their only option. They look for ways to temporarily treat the symptoms associated with ED rather than addressing the real causes behind their condition.
For a long time, these treatments were the only ones available. But conclusive research has given some Canadian men another safe, effective treatment option: SONICWAVE™ therapy.
Some people come to our clinic seeking this option; others have never heard of it and are full of questions. This article seeks to clarify SONICWAVE™ therapy and how it is used in Canadian erectile dysfunction clinics.
How does SONICWAVE™ therapy work?
SONICWAVE™ seeks to restructure the tissues inside the penis with high-frequency vibrations and low-intensity “shock wave therapy.” Rather than temporarily addressing symptomatic issues, this treats the penis directly.
The use of shock waves to induce changes and regeneration is nothing new. Doctors frequently use this technology to treat chronic wounds, cardiac disease, and other issues related to circulation and damaged tissue. The waves of energy used in treating erectile dysfunction are extremely low intensity compared to other uses of this technology, so the term “SONICWAVE™” is used instead of “shock wave” therapy in this case.
Is SONICWAVE™ therapy safe?
This is a great question! It’s important to know all the possible risks before undergoing any treatment.
One of the main benefits of SONICWAVE™ therapy is that, unlike drug-based options, it lacks side effects. For some patients, PDE5 inhibitors (like Cialis or Viagra) can lead to headaches, a stuffy nose, or gastrointestinal issues. Additionally, research shows that these pills do not work for up to 35% of patients and that 70% of patients do not continue renewing their prescription by the 6-12 month mark. While they may be an important part of a multimodal treatment plan, for many men pills and injections are far from an “easy fix.”
Because SONICWAVE™ therapy is a non-drug option, side effects like this do not arise. This therapy is also non-surgical, making it safer than implants. Doctors use extremely low waves of energy as dictated by peer-reviewed research, ensuring that the treatment is safe and noninvasive.
Shock wave therapy is currently approved in over 20 countries. It is used in hundreds of clinics worldwide, including FullMast Men’s Health Clinic in Toronto and Vancouver.
To learn more about the approval of this treatment, you can read the 19 studies involving shock waves registered here. A detailed description of two major studies centring on the use of this technology for ED can also be found here.
Does SONICWAVE™ therapy really “fix” erectile dysfunction?
SONICWAVE™ therapy physically jolts the cells of the penis stimulating the growth of blood vessels and nerves.
As with any treatment, the answer to this question comes down to the individual. Certain factors, such as pre-existing medical conditions, can influence the level and duration of success. At FullMast, our doctors do a full evaluation to determine if a patient is a candidate for SONICWAVE™ and customize a treatment plan based on medical research and patient history.
This treatment is often pursued by men seeking long-term recovery instead of brief “fixes” for individual sexual encounters. That said, a doctor may recommend that you take PDE5 inhibitors alongside SONICWAVE™ as part of your treatment plan Paying close attention to an individual’s unique situation and employing a multimodal treatment plan is the key to successful ED treatment.
If you would like a free consultation with an accredited doctor specializing in erectile dysfunction in Vancouver or Toronto, call 1-844-500-1177 or book your confidential appointment online today.
Learning how to sexually please a partner can be difficult for anyone, and continuing to please them throughout a relationship can be even more challenging.
What happens when your physical relationship starts to dwindle? What if you are no longer able to perform in those tried-and-true ways? And how do you learn about the desires of a new partner, especially if it has been awhile since you last dated?
We’ve found understanding what women want can be a particular challenge for their male partners. Many people are looking tips on how to turn a woman on, especially as relationships and bodies change. Research from psychologist Roy Baumeister suggests that women “have a much more variable sex drive, far more responsive to surrounding circumstances.” For men, whose sex drives are more biologically-controlled, this can add up to a whole lot of confusion.
Here are some of the things women most crave in the bedroom – and how you can give them what they want at any point in the relationship.
Paying positive compliments to a woman throughout the day, especially about her appearance, can help her get in the mood when it comes time to get busy. Believe it or not, helping with chores and opening up about your feelings can also help build intimacy and trust. It may not sound sexy, but it can make a big difference in the bedroom.
Women want patience
Most women take longer than men to achieve orgasm, so your patience will definitely be required from time to time.
If you seem exhausted or frustrated about the amount of time it is taking, you may make it difficult for her to fully enjoy the experience. Take care to make sure she gets what she desires, and be willing to commit to her needs…even if they take longer than you would like.
Women want communication
I know, this is a BIG topic, but stick with me. Although communication is key at every stage in the relationship, there are two instances in the bedroom where it is really important:
Women orgasm less frequently than men during sex, so it is important to discuss expectations surrounding this subject. A woman who is not reaching orgasm every time may still be enjoying the experience. Alternatively, a woman who can’t seem to reach orgasm could give you a few tips to get her there more frequently.
Because female sexuality tends to be more contextual, storylines can play a larger role in personal turn-ons. Ask your partner to share romance novels, erotic stories, or fantasies they enjoy.
In short, if you want to know how to turn a woman on, an intimate conversation might be the secret.
The most important thing to communicate about in a relationship
Throughout the years, a woman’s body can change dramatically. Childbirth, menopause, weight gain/loss, and other life events can make a big difference in female sexuality.
And guess what? Men’s bodies can change too.Some of those changes are the natural result of aging, but others – like erectile dysfunction – can and should be looked into by a doctor.
Erectile dysfunction affects around half of Canadian men over 50, many of whom struggle to address the issue with their partners. If this is something you are struggling with, we can offer support through our personalized treatment programs. For a free consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today.
“From A Woman’s Perspective” is the weekly radio program featuring Marilyn Wetston (host and producer) and her special guests (Sponsor-Experts). It airs every Saturday morning at 8 on AM740, 96.7 FM Toronto, and Rogers 949.
Each week Marilyn explores fascinating topics relevant to ‘Zoomer’ women and men.
While Marilyn is known as “The Wardrobe Doctor” and owns the landmark Toronto store Marilyn’s in Toronto’s Fashion District, the show is not just about fashion.
