How to please a woman in bed

How To Turn Her On – The Secrets You Need To Know
Learning how to sexually please a partner can be difficult for anyone, and continuing to please them throughout a relationship can be even more challenging.

What happens when your physical relationship starts to dwindle? What if you are no longer able to perform in those tried-and-true ways? And how do you learn about the desires of a new partner, especially if it has been awhile since you last dated?

We’ve found understanding what women want can be a particular challenge for their male partners. Many people are looking tips on how to turn a woman on, especially as relationships and bodies change. Research from psychologist Roy Baumeister suggests that women “have a much more variable sex drive, far more responsive to surrounding circumstances.” For men, whose sex drives are more biologically-controlled, this can add up to a whole lot of confusion.

Here are some of the things women most crave in the bedroom – and how you can give them what they want at any point in the relationship.

Women want emotional closeness

Pioneering research on male and female sexuality suggests that context matters a lot to women, and that emotional closeness is an important part of how to turn a woman on.

Paying positive compliments to a woman throughout the day, especially about her appearance, can help her get in the mood when it comes time to get busy. Believe it or not, helping with chores and opening up about your feelings can also help build intimacy and trust. It may not sound sexy, but it can make a big difference in the bedroom.

Women want patience

Most women take longer than men to achieve orgasm, so your patience will definitely be required from time to time.

If you seem exhausted or frustrated about the amount of time it is taking, you may make it difficult for her to fully enjoy the experience. Take care to make sure she gets what she desires, and be willing to commit to her needs…even if they take longer than you would like.

Women want communication

I know, this is a BIG topic, but stick with me. Although communication is key at every stage in the relationship, there are two instances in the bedroom where it is really important:
- Women orgasm less frequently than men during sex, so it is important to discuss expectations surrounding this subject. A woman who is not reaching orgasm every time may still be enjoying the experience. Alternatively, a woman who can’t seem to reach orgasm could give you a few tips to get her there more frequently.
- Because female sexuality tends to be more contextual, storylines can play a larger role in personal turn-ons. Ask your partner to share romance novels, erotic stories, or fantasies they enjoy.
In short, if you want to know how to turn a woman on, an intimate conversation might be the secret.

The most important thing to communicate about in a relationship

Throughout the years, a woman’s body can change dramatically. Childbirth, menopause, weight gain/loss, and other life events can make a big difference in female sexuality.

And guess what? Men’s bodies can change too. Some of those changes are the natural result of aging, but others – like erectile dysfunction – can and should be looked into by a doctor.

Erectile dysfunction affects around half of Canadian men over 50, many of whom struggle to address the issue with their partners. If this is something you are struggling with, we can offer support through our personalized treatment programs. For a free consultation, call us at 1-844-500-1177 or schedule an appointment online today…
01/08/2017
The Truth About Women “Faking It” In The Bedroom

It’s something many women do, but few will admit to their partners. It’s the punchline of jokes, the source of tension in some relationships, and the unspoken reality in bedrooms across the country.

Yes, women fake orgasms. They fake orgasms a lot. Although studies on the subject are limited, recent research suggests that up to 80% of women are faking it at least half the time they have sex. The same study showed that 1 in 4 women fake it every time they have sex.

It’s easy to assume that “faking it” is negative and dishonest, but the reality is a far less black and white. Relationship experts note that some types of “fake pleasure” can actually be positive in a relationship, while others are completely destructive.

Here’s a breakdown of some common reasons women fake orgasms, how to spot them in your relationship, and what to do about it.

Scenario #1: She’s putting on a show because it turns you on.

What it looks like: If she’s rocking the bed with loud screams and over-the-top shakes, it’s possible that your partner is exaggerating her pleasure to get you excited. She may well be enjoying herself, but studies show that women tend to make more aggressive noises when their partners are close to climaxing, while their own orgasms have less of a soundtrack.

What to do about it: This is the “good” kind of fake orgasm, provided the woman is not denying herself enjoyment or taking it too far. For the most part, it simply means she cares about getting you off. Sure, she might be using sound effects to get you there more quickly, but this is common and harmless behaviour. If your concerns linger, touching base about her needs and wants might be a good idea.

Scenario #2: She is faking orgasms to appease your unreasonable expectations and to protect your ego.

What it looks like: To identify this, it’s better to look in the mirror rather than at your partner’s behaviour. Do you insist on making her orgasm every time you have sex, despite how long it takes (and whether she desired an orgasm to start with)? Do you feel a strong sense of accomplishment and security from pleasuring your partner? Could she feel pressured to give you that affirmation? If so, chances are she might be occasionally faking it to spare your feelings.

What to do about it: This type of fake orgasm emerges out of the myth that the female orgasm is the same as the male orgasm, and that in order to be satisfied a woman needs to climax. This is often not the case with women, which can be hard for men to grasp. Faking it is an understandable response–it is a lot easier than debating the complexities of female pleasure mid-encounter. On the other hand, allowing unrealistic expectations and myths to control your sex life is not a good move. To have a conversation about this, try asking your partner to explain her orgasm expectations and be willing to listen to her experience. You may be surprised by what you learn!

Scenario #3: She is trying to make it stop, because she doesn’t want to be doing it in the first place.

What it looks like: This could look similar to scenario #1, but there are some key differences that make this cross the line into dangerous territory. For example, she may show visible signs of discomfort, such as wincing or avoiding kissing, throughout the encounter. She also may evade eye contact and be physically still while you are having sex. She may seem aloof, then start making “pleasure” noises while in a position where you aren’t looking at each other. Experts agree that this type of orgasm faking is the most dangerous.

What to do about it: Abort mission! There’s a difference between a woman who wants to have sex despite not being initially “into it” (maybe she wants the intimacy, or wants to fulfill your needs) and a woman who feels pressured, uncomfortable, and doesn’t want to be there at all. Before the encounter, make sure you have consent. If you notice discomfort during sex, even if it conflicts with other signs of pleasure, ask again. Most importantly, be genuinely open to stopping if she is not comfortable continuing.

What should you do if you are having trouble in your sex life?

Almost everyone struggles at one point or another with understanding their partners’ needs and behaviours in the bedroom. It is clear from our look at the female orgasm that couples without sexual dysfunction have trouble communicating about pleasure. Dealing with health issues can add a whole new level of complexity for any couple.

At FullMast, we know you care about the pleasure of your partner, and that you want a full and happy sex life. That’s why we offer compassionate, comprehensive, and confidential support for men dealing with erectile dysfunction. For more information, please call 1-844-500-1177 or book an appointment today.

13/07/2017
The Most Common Sexual Health Issues for Women – and What to Do About Them
Communication, as we’ve discussed before, can be a challenge in any romantic relationship. Addressing physical needs and limitations can be tough, and both men and women often feel uncomfortable revealing what is going on with their ever-changing bodies.

An open conversation is almost always worth the time and discomfort, but it can be hard for women and their partners to know where to start.

What are the most common sexual health issues for women? Why do they happen? And how can they be addressed?

This list of common sexual health issues for women can help guide your conversation and find real solutions for common problems.

1) Pain during sex

According to the 2009 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 30% of women between 18 and 54 reported pain during their last sexual encounter, making this one of the most common sexual health issues for women.

Comparatively, only 5% of men reported any pain during sex…so it’s no surprise many women have trouble explaining this issue to male partners!

Let’s break this statistic down a little bit to get a better idea of what is happening.
- About 10% of women suffer from chronic genital pain, which can spawn from many different medical issues such as vulvodynia. If a woman feels pain every time she has sex, a visit to a doctor is a good idea.
- A lack of lubrication can make things uncomfortable and can become a bigger problem for women as they age. Try increasing foreplay and using a water-based lube during sex to ease this issue.
- If the pain is new, consider any recent changes (such as childbirth or menopause) or potential STIs which could affect the reproductive organs.
2) Changes in the body

Even if a woman is not experiencing pain, changes in the body from childbirth, menopause, major illness or a major shift in weight can majorly affect things in the bedroom.

The reasons for this are both physiological and psychological. Giving birth, for example, can loosen the vaginal muscles and affect a woman’s pleasure in bed. It can also cause postpartum depression, fatigue, or a loss of confidence due to physical changes.

Being sensitive to how the woman is feeling, showing interest in her pleasure, and even involving a sex therapist can help couples jump over these hurdles in life.

3) Lack of desire

There is a difference between a shortage of desire for sex and a total disinterest in sex. Many people struggle with their libidos but still want the closeness and pleasure that a physical encounter can bring.

While women experiencing menopause often report a change in libido, the truth is that both women and men at any age can be affected by a change in their sexual desire. A relationship with someone who has a higher sex drive can make these issues even more prominent, and more important to talk about.

How do you talk about it? An environment without immediate pressures is vital; having a conversation about a lack of desire right after an advance is turned down is not a great idea. Often, desire can be improved with changes in relationship behaviour – more romance, for example, or less stress. A sex therapist can help lead the conversation and offer suggestions, or a doctor can get involved if menopause or hormones are the culprit.

Be open to improving your sex life

Whatever sexual health issues women (and men!) face in the bedroom, the most important solution is to look for solutions. Sex is a big part of your life and well-being. There are many people out there ready to help with any issue you might be facing.

For our part, we help men in Toronto, Vancouver, and surrounding area keep their sex lives at “full mast” with innovative treatments and a comprehensive approach to erectile dysfunction. If ED is affecting your love life, book your FREE, confidential consultation online today or call 1-844-500-1177.
06/04/2017
Sex is a relationship cleanser

“Marriage is a wonderful invention; but then again so is a bicycle repair kit,” so said Billy Connolly, the Scottish comedian. And like bicycle tires, marriages often need some repairing.

Research proves that sexual intimacy helps people stay healthy. Just like one needs to eat foods that are nutritious and exercise everyone also needs to feel loved. But sex has another benefit that is often not mentioned but in my experience is priceless.

Everything one does in life such as reading, working, driving, skiing, eating and going to birthday parties one does with a variety of family members, friends and strangers. But the one thing one does exclusively with one’s partner (presuming one is in a monogamous relationship) is have sex. Making love is the one thing that is intimate and private.

Inevitably in all relationships we encounter irritations and difficulties. Sometimes couples disagree and have fights. Sometimes the aggravations can fester.

Well, my prescription is have sex! Lovemaking will bring you back together and the intimacy will cleanse the relationship.

Over time partners can drift apart. As Rodney Dangerfield said, “I haven’t spoken to my wife in years. I didn’t want to interrupt her.” Good sex is the antidote!

At FullMast Men’s Health Clinics we treat men with erectile dysfunction. It is rewarding to see our patients rekindle their sexual lives, and satisfying to hear about what it does for their relationships outside the bedroom.

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13/03/2017