Category: How to improve confidence in the bedroom

Global News: Revitalize Your Sex Life
FullMast’s Medical experts share four ways to revitalize your sex and love life

An article published by Global News about ways to revitalize love life explained that sexual anxiety is common.

A 2020 literature review reports that up to 25 per cent of men experience anxiety associated with sexual performance. In another study, researchers found that 34 per cent of the 789 men surveyed reported having a current sexual problem. Sexual health issues are prevalent, yet many individuals are reluctant to get the help they need.

Thankfully the taboos around sexual health are weakening. Darren, an 82-year-old man from Toronto whose real name has been withheld for privacy reasons, said he had no hesitation in seeking professional help for his sexual health concern. “I just wanted to make sure that everything was healthy and that I could keep my lady happy so I talked to my naturopathic clinic and he suggested I talk to Dr. Mayer,” he says.

Dr. Ron Mayer is the Chief Medical Officer at FullMast Men’s Health Clinics in Ontario, specializing in sexual health. He touts the benefits of having a healthy sex life, which includes stronger and more intimate partnerships and a better quality of life. “Having a good sex life just produces more happiness hormones in your brain and that results in a more productive person in general,” Mayer explains.

Dr. Len De Bolster, an expert in pelvic health based in Oakville, shares the many improvements his patients have gained from seeking medical help for their sexual health challenges – not only improvements in the quality of their sex lives but also an increase in psychological health, physical health, mental health as well as a restored sense of intimacy in their relationship.

For some men, sexual health challenges can feel insurmountable, yet there are solutions. Here are four ways you can start reigniting your sex and love life today.
1. Seek professional help
Men’s sexual health concerns can range from the quality of their erection to lower libido, no matter their age – and while it may be tempting to try and find a quick-fix solution, be very careful of what you find on the internet, particularly when it comes to products that may cause side effects.

There are varying reasons for the occurrence of sexual health challenges, which Mayer divides into two categories: organic and psychogenic. Organic issues relating to erectile health may require medication or shockwave therapy, while psychogenic issues may require other approaches such as anti-anxiety treatments. Sexual health challenges may also be a symptom of other health issues such as cardiovascular illness – so working with a primary care provider is key for both sexual and overall health.
1. Lower your anxiety
The anxiety to perform can have a negative cyclical effect, like a self-fulfilling prophecy. With erectile dysfunction, for example, “when you get anxious about it, you trigger off an inhibitory centre in your brain” that can prevent the erection from happening, Mayer explains. He recommends relaxing the brain and not worrying so much. He teaches his patients to practice sexually focused mindfulness meditation, which involves simple touch therapy with a partner; caressing parts of the body like the face, neck, abdomen and legs and pushing away negative thoughts, and being present with the sensations of touch itself.
1. Communicate with your partner
Communication is central to any relationship, particularly partnered sexual relationships, says Mayer. Too often people get shy about their desires, but it’s important to express the things they like and want to experience and the things they dislike – because having those honest conversations will ultimately lead to more enjoyable sex.

De Bolster also urges partners to be supportive in their sexual relationship – “having a supportive partner that’s supportive not only in recognizing the concern of the problem but also supportive in seeking out solutions for the problem as well,” he says. What becomes counterproductive is an unsupportive partner who comments or criticizes, which then increases pressure and anxiety.
1. Connect outside the bedroom
What happens outside the bedroom is as important as inside the bedroom when it comes to increasing intimacy. Feelings of connection and intimacy can be cultivated every day, such as by showing appreciation and spending quality time together. Communicate the things you want to experience non-sexually as well, says Mayer, and open yourself up a little bit more.

Ultimately, a healthy sex life is about strengthening relationships and improving one’s quality of life. When asked about improvements to his sex life since seeking professional help, Darren replied, “The process really helped me.”
31/01/2023
Satisfying sex. Which comes first confidence or performance?

When it comes to intimate relationships, confidence has always been a bit of an enigma. Just how important is high self-esteem in relationships? Does confidence come from a healthy sex life, or is it a necessary ingredient to get things moving in the first place? Is confidence sexy, or are sexy people confident?

While questions may linger, one thing is certain: Confidence is a worthwhile goal for those looking to improve their relationships. Let’s take a look at what experts say about how self-image affects relationships, and what you can do to improve your confidence between the sheets.

Yes, confidence is a big deal in the bedroom.

Actually, it’s a big deal in all aspects of a healthy relationship. Studies show that women with low self-image are 19% less satisfied in their marriages. Additionally, people with high self-esteem are more likely to take emotional risks which are necessary for the health of a partnership.

In the Hite Report, a landmark study of sexuality, one woman shared that “What started me off into having [orgasms] was a great deal more confidence in myself which has been a steadily growing feature of the last several years, talking plainly about sex and the sex we were having with my husband and experimenting with different things to do in bed.” Other Hite Report participants agreed that increased confidence and communication helped to increase their sexual satisfaction.

But the question still stands – how do you get that much-needed confidence in the first place? Here are a few tips from experts in the field.

Get your head in the game.

If body image concerns are creeping into your head during intimate moments, it might be worthwhile to flip the switch. Sex therapist Annie Gunn told Business Insider that focusing on the sensations in your body and the bond with your partner may help to dispel self-doubt during an encounter. In the same article, sexologist Kristie Overstreet adds that self-conscious lovers should “Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and not taken too seriously.”

Get healthy.

We’ve already written about the bevy of research about how exercise can improve your sex life. Besides helping with sexual performance and erectile dysfunction, regular workouts can also have a great effect on body image. The endorphins released from exercise don’t hurt, either!

Give it time.

Many women in the Hite report alluded to the sexual confidence that comes with age. According to an article published by Harvard Health, it takes many women until their 30s to gain confidence in the bedroom. When she reaches age 40 and older, orgasms can become more intense and body-comfort increases. Men can also shed preconceived notions about body image, erectile performance, and other issues as they age, allowing for a healthier sex life. As we’ve said before on this blog, the concept of hitting leaving a “sexual peak” behind as we age is far from the reality for many Canadians!

Confidence is for everyone.

Confidence is not something you are born with. It is built through time, a healthy lifestyle, and a good mindset. With the right steps and attitude, sexual confidence is attainable for anyone at any age.

That said, if more serious issues are plaguing your sex life, calling for reinforcements may be your best option. Our clinics help Toronto and Vancouver men access medically sound, non-intrusive treatments for their erectile dysfunction. If ED is affecting your confidence and performance in the bedroom, call us at 1-877-500-1177 or schedule your free initial consultation online today.

22/08/2017
Single Again? Here’s How to Get Your Mojo Back

Jumping back into the dating pool, especially after being in a long-term relationship, can take courage.

While getting to know a potential mate is exciting, it can also be exhausting and full of uncertainty. To make matters more complex, new technologies and cultural shifts have changed some of the dating rules. In some cases, that makes things easier – with online dating, an eligible single near you could be just a click away! But it also can make the scene even more intimidating.

The good news is that plenty of men and women have conquered dating after a divorce, break up or loss of a spouse. Here’s our best advice for getting the most out of finding and enjoying new romances.

Manage Expectations

I know, kicking romantic notions and fantasies to the curb isn’t the sexiest advice…but long term, it’s a good game plan. Mentally preparing yourself for whatever happens will not only help you handle a less-than-ideal date, it will make you truly grateful for a positive experience. Perhaps most importantly, it will stop you from giving up after a single disappointment.

Remind yourself that not every person you take to dinner is going to be the love of your life (or even the right person to bring home for a night or two). But there are plenty of people out there, and being open to every experience will give you the best shot at finding what you’re looking for when dating after a divorce.

Own the Situation

Are you nervous? Feel like a rookie? Sometimes, the best way to break the tension is by simply letting your date know. One divorcee shared on reddit that his secret to a solid post-divorce first date was being “…totally upfront with where I was at in life. We sat down and I said straight up, ‘You’re my first date in a long long time, so I’m really nervous.’ After that, (and a glass of liquid courage) things were totally fine. So I guess the moral of the story is to be honest about where you’re at, if you’re nervous and such and things should be okay.”

Get Excited About Sharing Some New “Experiences” (wink, wink)

It might be a bit nerve-wracking to get back into the sack with someone new, especially if you are coming out of a situation where intimacy was scarce. But new partners to experiment with, as long as it is done safely, can be one of the best parts about jumping back into the dating pool.

One female divorcee discovered that for her, “Sex is SO much better! Before divorce, my ex-husband had been my 1 and only experience. I didn’t realize what I was missing out on, now that I’ve had several partners I realize what I like and don’t like and know what’s out there. It feels liberating.”

Another online blogger raves that getting back between the sheets can be liberating for many reasons, especially now that “You know what you are looking for in a partner. You might prefer someone who isn’t afraid to take charge, tie you up, and ravage you all night long. Or maybe you would prefer to be the dominant one in the bedroom. Whatever your preferences are, make your experience work for you in finding the right partner. Or at least, the right partner for a night or two.”

Get a performance tune-up

If you are worried about erectile dysfunction which is very common in men over 40, or if your erection is not as firm as it once was and you need a performance boost you should book an appointment with FullMast Men’s Health Clinics. We use a multimodal approach for the enhancement of sexual function, including both focused SONICWAVE for ED, and radial SONICWAVE for performance “tune-ups.”

31/03/2017