Category: Dating and intimacy in older age

Secrets to Achieve the Perfect Orgasm
The secret to giving and getting a powerful orgasm is, in a phrase, take it slow.

There is no need to be in a hurry because taking time allows the body to build up energy that can then be released in a burst of energy, similar to a sneeze.

Many research studies have shown that a woman’s sexual pleasure is increased when the physical sexual act is accompanied by loving, caring relationship.

With men the psychological dimensions are also important but the physical aspects of touch are more significant.

Here are five general suggestions for what you can do to have mutually satisfying – and – huge orgasms.
- Focus on foreplay: For many men, a satisfying orgasm starts with ample foreplay. Take the time to engage in kissing, touching, and other types of stimulation before moving on to intercourse.
- Communicate: Open and honest communication is key when it comes to sexual pleasure. Encourage your partner to share what feels good and what doesn’t, and be receptive to their feedback.
- Experiment: Try new things and explore different techniques together to find what works best for both of you. This could involve changing positions, trying different types of stimulation, or incorporating sex toys into your play.
- Use lubrication: If your partner experiences discomfort or pain during sex, using a water-based lubricant can help increase pleasure and reduce friction.
- Encourage relaxation: Stress and anxiety can make it difficult for some men to achieve orgasm. Encourage your partner to relax and focus on the sensations they’re experiencing, rather than any performance pressure or distractions.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to listen to your partner and prioritize their pleasure and comfort. By working together and being open to trying new things, you can help your partner have a more satisfying orgasm.

If you are interested in the science you can read these journal articles:

How Does Our Brain Generate Sexual Pleasure?

Sex, ducks, and rock “n” roll: Mathematical model of sexual response

If you need a harder erection and live in the Greater Toronto Area (GTA) consider booking an appointment with FullMast Men’s Health Clinics.
10/04/2023
Sex is a relationship cleanser

“Marriage is a wonderful invention; but then again so is a bicycle repair kit,” so said Billy Connolly, the Scottish comedian. And like bicycle tires, marriages often need some repairing.

Research proves that sexual intimacy helps people stay healthy. Just like one needs to eat foods that are nutritious and exercise everyone also needs to feel loved. But sex has another benefit that is often not mentioned but in my experience is priceless.

Everything one does in life such as reading, working, driving, skiing, eating and going to birthday parties one does with a variety of family members, friends and strangers. But the one thing one does exclusively with one’s partner (presuming one is in a monogamous relationship) is have sex. Making love is the one thing that is intimate and private.

Inevitably in all relationships we encounter irritations and difficulties. Sometimes couples disagree and have fights. Sometimes the aggravations can fester.

Well, my prescription is have sex! Lovemaking will bring you back together and the intimacy will cleanse the relationship.

Over time partners can drift apart. As Rodney Dangerfield said, “I haven’t spoken to my wife in years. I didn’t want to interrupt her.” Good sex is the antidote!

At FullMast Men’s Health Clinics we treat men with erectile dysfunction. It is rewarding to see our patients rekindle their sexual lives, and satisfying to hear about what it does for their relationships outside the bedroom.

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13/03/2017
Age Difference Should Not Stop Love

If you’ve ever dated someone significantly older or younger, you’re probably used to the questions. Are they in it for the right reasons? Can you keep up with each others’ physical needs? Can this relationship really work in the long term?

Those questions can only be answered with honest and open communication between each individual couple. While some of these relationships may face major issues, compatibility and proper self-care can lead to a healthy relationship (or even just a fling!) regardless of age gap.

Here are a few couples who prove that age is really just a number.

Celine Dion and René Angélil

Dion raised a few eyebrows when she married her manager, René Angélil, in 1994. The pair wed following a romance which began in 1987 when Dion was only 18. Angélil was 26 years her senior.

The couple proved the critics wrong: After their extravagant wedding was aired on Canadian television, the couple quickly became known for their strong, kind, and enduring relationship. They were married nearly 22 years before Angélil passed away in January 2016.

Dion shared that a sense of humour was central to their connection: “We laugh. We joke. We kid each other. We want our marriage to last forever. Talk over everything and you’ll find you are still on the honeymoon. Communication — it’s the most important. It’s the secret.”

Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively

These new parents are always making headlines for their sweet, affectionate relationship. Despite a 12 year age gap, Lively gushes that “I knew he would always be my best friend for my whole life. That was the biggest thing to me. I’d never known anything like the friendship that I had with him. I could like him as much as I loved him.”

In a radio interview, Reynolds explains how the friendship evolved into a relationship, saying “We went on a double date. She was on a date with another guy, and I was on a date with another girl. That was the most awkward date [from their perspective] probably because we were just like fireworks coming across.” The couple has been together since 2011.

And so, so, so many others!

There are thousands of stories from happy couples with relationship gaps. The key for almost all of them? Communication, communication, communication.

Whether it’s a fun fling or a long term relationship, knowing what your goals are as individuals and as a couple can lead to a rewarding romance.

Knowing exactly who you are and why you are together can also help you to navigate potential judgments. As couples’ counsellor Rebecca Sears, LPC states, “This certainly is one of many kinds of pairings that may look odd to others, but when you start to know them it makes sense. There is something about every couple that makes sense once you get to know them.”

One of the most difficult things to communicate about in a May-December relationship

As a men’s health clinic, we see plenty of happy relationships with an age gap. For them, only one issue stands in their way: intimate men’s health issues.

Yes, this is often the elephant in the room. But is such an important issue faced by so many couples–an issue which is often treatable.

If you’re struggling with men’s health issues, we’re here to help. Simply call us at 1-844-500-1177 or contact us online for an expert consultation at our Vancouver or Toronto clinics.

13/01/2017
Too Old To Fall In Love? These Couples Prove Age Is No Limit to Intimacy

Do you have to be a teenager or twenty-something to find romance? Many of the budding romances we see on screen, in books, or in songs feature young love. But in reality there’s no age limit for love.

There are many more stories that often don’t get told.

If you ask the couples below, they would tell you that it’s never too late to find love.

George Carlin and Sally Wade

Famed comedian George Carlin met his second wife, Sally, a year after he had lost his first wife to cancer, he wasn’t expecting the courtship so soon after the death, and said the relationship happened “like a thunderbolt.” Carlin, aged 61 at the time, found his match in Sally. He described the relationship as “what I call perfect. It’s a gift. It’s an absolute gift from the cosmos that we found each other.” The two spent a decade together before his death in 2008.

In an interview after Carlin’s death, Wade noted that a willingness to be vulnerable was central to this love story. “Because I took a chance, I met my match, and we don’t always take that chance. And I’ve always been afraid of intimacy, but he made me feel safe. So it was just one of those moments in life that you regret if you don’t do it, yet you know you might get really hurt if you do.”

Sally Wade describes the tenderness and love in their relationship in The George Carlin Letters: The Permanent Courtship of Sally Wade.

Nancy and Ronald Reagan

Would-be President Ronald Reagan married Nancy Davis in 1952, when he was 41 and she was 31.

In a book she wrote, Nancy describes what initially attracted her to Ronald: “He didn’t talk about himself. He didn’t talk about his movies. He talked about a lot of things, but not about ‘my next picture, my last picture …’ He was a Civil War buff, loved horses, and knew a lot about wine. In fact, he had a broad knowledge of a lot of different things. I loved to listen to him talk. I loved his sense of humor. I saw it clearly that very first night: He was everything that I wanted.”

Their 52-year marriage was full of romance, with Ronald often writing love letters. In one, given to Nancy for their 31st wedding anniversary, he wrote “I more than love you, I’m not whole without you. You are life itself to me.”

James and Peggy Mason

James, 93, and Peggy, 84, became the oldest newlyweds in the UK when they married shortly after meeting at a retirement centre in 2007.

The Guardian interviewed the couple after their wedding, and the couple was clearly smitten. Peggy shared that the romance was love at first sight, saying “I knew as soon as I saw him he was the man for me. It was the twinkle in his eyes. He makes me happy, we’re laughing all the time. We find funny things in everything. That’s great at our time of life to laugh. Laughter is the best medicine.”

Mr. Mason added “It’s never too late. If you love them, marry them. There’s no point hanging round at our age. You need to get on with things.”

Anyone Can Find Love Later in Life

As a men’s health clinic, we hear many stories about people rejuvenating their love lives and finding romance throughout their lives. We also hear about how men of any age, particularly those over 40, can have medical issues which can get in the way of a rewarding and intimate relationship.

If you need medical assistance as you get back into the dating world, FullMast clinics in Toronto in Vancouver are here to help. Call us toll free at 1-844-500-1177 or contact us online today.

22/11/2016
The Age We Really Hit Our “Sexual Peak” in the Bedroom? It’s Not What You Think

We’ve all heard the myth, right?

Men hit their sexual peak around 17 or 18. Women hit theirs around 35. It’s certainly a strange claim, and doesn’t sound great for people who are not that age.

If you’re past this supposed prime, however, fear not. The science on age, stage and sexuality goes a lot deeper than these two mythical numbers. Here’s what science really says about the age people have the best time in the bedroom.

The Real Story: Quantity versus Quality

The measuring stick used to define this so-called sexual peak has always focused on how often a person climaxes, rather than how satisfied they are. How exciting, intimate, lengthy, or just plain good the encounters are isn’t taken into consideration

And really, it should be.

An 18 year old boy might crave action more than his older counterpart, but his experience, emotional maturity, confidence, and understanding of his partner could be lacking. That means that while he may technically “finish” more frequently, his love life probably isn’t at its best.

Is There A Magic Age?

So what age are things really best between the sheets? Recent surveys have come up with conflicting answers to this question. One online survey suggested 46 was the best age for intimacy, with 37 percent of women and 34 percent of men citing that they had the best encounters during their 40s. Another survey came back with the median ages of 32 for men and 26 for women.

Meanwhile, a 2015 University of Manchester study took a serious look at the physical relationships of men and women over 50 and found high levels of satisfaction in this otherwise unstudied demographic. 85% of sexually active women 50-69 reported being satisfied with this aspect of their lives, growing to 90% by age 79 plus. That’s a pretty high percentage!

While the quality was there for this demographic, the quantity had certainly decreased. Only 31% of women and 54% of men over the age of 70 reported doing it at all.

Health and Relationships Are What Really Matters

Clearly, these study results show there’s no replacing experience, confidence, and chemistry in the bedroom. Despite common sexual peak mythology, those in the older demographics are often the most satisfied. So why aren’t they doing it as much?

The most common issue cited by older couples are health and performance challenges that come with age. Considering that around half of all men over 50 struggle with ED at some point, this isn’t surprising. The good news is that many treatments are available to deal with these issues. Given that intimacy gets better with age, getting a doctor involved could be well worth the payoff!

Along with the health of your body, your relationship with your partner is also a key factor. In general, couples who know each other better and are more experienced tend to have more satisfying encounters, even if they are sometimes less frequent. Foreplay, affectionate language, trust building and trying new things are all great ways to improve your satisfaction level with a long-term partner.

Good communication and a healthy body can help you enjoy a physical relationship at any age. In fact, despite common mythology, it often gets better as you get older. All you need is a great partner and good physical health!

Remember, if you’re one of the many couples who experience ED, there are multiple treatment options available. Our clinic is dedicated to helping find the best solution for you. If you need help, please don’t hesitate to contact us online or call 1-844-500-1177.

30/09/2016