We’ve all had awkward conversations: bad job interviews, parental inquisitions, weird small talk with a friend-of-a-friend (what was his name again?).
If you’re anything like me, avoiding these interactions is usually your first instinct.
Unfortunately, you can’t run from all awkward moments and difficult discussions. While some might be worth avoiding (sorry, friend-of-a-friend), pushing through the discomfort is necessary to improve and maintain your intimate relationships.
Here are some of the most uncomfortable conversations couples need to have, and some tips for dealing with them.
1) I’m not happy with the amount of sex we are having.
Many couples avoid any conversation about sex that may be construed as negative or shaming. After all, it’s pretty awkward to bring up. But quiet tensions and bedtime frustrations are no fun for anyone, and eventually you will have to address the elephant in the room.
If you are the partner who wants more action, kindly ask your significant other what they need to make that happen. Everyone has needs and wants in a relationship. It might be a challenge at first, but sharing your physical desires and committing to giving more in return can improve things dramatically.
If you want less, ask yourself why. Is this a new development, or have you always had a low libido? Are there changes you or your partner could make to improve the situation? Clarity and compromise are key to making this conversation about sex work.
2) My body is changing.
Talking about a lack of sex is difficult, but addressing physical barriers to sex can feel almost impossible. How do you even start to improve something you don’t quite understand yourself?
Changes in hormones, energy, and sexual performance might be hard to talk about, but they aren’t uncommon. A compassionate conversation on next steps is the most productive in this case. Suggest a doctor or specialist get involved, and avoid feelings of shame and frustration by holding off on big discussions until you have the facts in front of you.
3) I’m bored.
You know your sex life needs some spicing up, but how do you bring it up to your partner?
First, figure out if the boredom is limited to the bedroom. There are many reasons your relationship could feel a bit stale, and working on personal and relationship issues can create a better environment for fun and experimentation.
Next, identify some new things you want to try in the bedroom and suggest your partner do the same. Try to come up with more than one option, so your partner doesn’t feel pressured to do something which makes them uncomfortable. A conversation about sex that focuses on boredom may be awkward, but shifting focus to new things you would like to try can be intimate and encouraging.
Should I talk to a doctor about my sex life?
We know firsthand that medical knowledge can make a real difference for couples. Talking to a doctor about intimate issues can lead to a better understanding of your health of as a whole. But where do you find a doctor who can really help when it comes to sexual health, a doctor who won’t just throw a pill at the problem?
That’s where clinics like FullMast come in. By identifying hidden causes and effective treatments, FullMast helps men to find real solutions for their erectile dysfunction. That means a better sex life, renewed confidence, and a conversation about sex that involves excitement and solutions.
We encourage you to seek out clinics that can help you address the specific issues you are facing as a couple. If you are dealing with erectile dysfunction, let us know! Book a free consultation at our Toronto or Vancouver clinics online today or call 1-844-500-1177.